Earlier this week, I was invited by one of my friends to join her on a Grouper date. Grouper, if you don’t know, is a social site that pairs to sets of friends, 3 and 3. For a small fee (per person), Grouper makes the match, arranges the date and covers the first round. You don’t have any communication with your match and his/her friends until the date itself. If you ever ran out of something to say, you could simply jump over to the conversation next to you.
I honestly enjoyed the date, but don’t think anything will come of it – romantically, at least. I particularly enjoyed it because it gave an organic feel to what something that came about thanks to a website. Remember, this is coming from a girl who has her doubts about online dating. But, alas, I’m getting ahead of myself.
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Fun fact for the day: okCupid got rid of their announcement or status update feature… A.k.a. I can’t say hey I’m here for a week, wanna fuck?
Guess I’ll have to dust my shoulders off and do it the old fashioned way.
If I were to stop everything and go to grad school right now, I would study relationships. I would study the way that human beings – this supposed evolved, “super” species — interact and communicate with each other. Why? Because we suck at it. Women are too driven by emotions, jumping to conclusions time and time again, while men are too stunted to adequately express their thoughts/feelings/concerns/fill-in-the-blank**
You would think that over the course of human existence we would have continued to evolve past this dreadful stage to a world where men and woman could just express themselves, in a easy to understand, straightforward kind of way. No more holding back, no more turning it into something it isn’t.
Though I’ve been interested in this topic for a while — communication being my background — today was the kind of day that just slams you in the face with the realization of WTF are we all doing and why can’t we just figure it out. Case in point:
- Guys who can’t express what is going on with them and end up shutting everyone out.
- Girls who go from 0 to 100 in assumptions
- Guys who just bleed douchebaggery
- The whole Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus idealogy to begin with
Again — why can’t we all just be up front about it? No more games. No more secrets. No more lies. No one ever jumps for joy when dating a complete asshole or misses being pushed away, so it’s not like we’re all gonna miss much.
** Yes, massive generalizations were made in this post.
Sometimes, we all just need a pick me up. A little something, something for yourself that actually makes you feel good about yourself (note: after a week of trying to make it work, eating with a total disregard of calories burned v. consumed IT DOES NOT WORK). Today’s feel good: Dying my hair.
I upped the ante this time around. Instead of going with my basic golden brown/slight hint of red. I went with the dark, the fabulous, the burgandy. So far I’m loving it, mind you it’s still wet… and in a towel.
And because I have nothing else to write, another one of my favorites: An INFOGRAPHIC via Visua.ly
Flirting with class = mustache, always (AKA Four Grownup Ways to e-flirt with Class via eHarmony)
True story: I clicked on this link solely for the image. I, mean, seriously?
I could only see a glimpse of it at first, but yes, the featured image is a woman with a mustache sweater. Let me rephrase it, the featured image – for a blog entry on E-FLIRTING WITH CLASS – is a woman with a mustache sweater.
That is all.
Soooo…. this is happening tonight. I can not be held responsible for the amount of tears that I may or may not shed.
Don’t judge me.
In just seven days and some odd hours, I’ll be leaving on a jet plane for my Thanksgiving abroad. Had I still been not single, I would have tried (most likely, unsuccessfully) to spend as much time with B as I could muster before saying our fair wells for the week. Now that I am single, however, I’m responding to OkCupid messages (yes, I may have responded to Mr. Sincerely-your-ex-hubby… more on that later), signing up for Grouper and just trying to positively envision my life as a single gal once more.
I’m thinking about …
- Dusting off / reworking my sex bucket list (more on this later)
- Reading all those cheesy (or not cheesy and perhaps potentially informative) dating books
- Walking up to strangers at bar with a new found vigor
- The possibility of a hot and heavy travel fling
Sadly — I’ve been googling “travel fling”, “travel romance”, “travel sex” for more time than I’ve spent writing this post. I’ve found nothing good. No helpful hints. No juicy stories. Nothing.
Which is, I suppose, is normal. You can’t really develop a game plan for steamy travel agendas. Well, ok, you could, but that’s kind of creepy at the same time.
Nevertheless, I am crossing my fingers that exchange glances with
sexy smoldering European man (or two) from across the bar. In a typical romance movie fashion, he would casually get up and walk towards me, never looking away. Drinks. Laughter. The works would soon ensue. SAWOOOOOOOON.
Ok — maybe I got a little ahead of myself, but I think you get the point 😉
To further reiterate what I was drunkenly rambling on about yesterday… WTF OkCupid?
First of all, I do realize that I am a mere 36 hours (give or take) out of my relationship – quasi as it be – and dating / jumping into bed with anyone right now may not be the best idea.
I realize this, I do.
But, that doesn’t mean it’s not too early to start the preliminary search. Unfortunately, the preliminary search for me, at least, is NOT online dating. I’ve tried it once; I’ve tried it a million time. The guys I connect with are just NOT what I’m looking for:
- They’re based out of the burbs (ew)
- They’re babies/youngins (ew)
- They’re only after sex (not horrible, but so not worth the effort. Heeeelllllo, bar down the street!)
I know that a new guy is the last thing I need right now, but seriously, are these my options? I’m a firm believer in trying everything once, but online dating is just NOT it.
In case you’re wondering, I stick to OKcupid for the most part– it’s free. And with free comes a long list of pros and cons. Primarily for me, its a major con: matchups that just won’t work out. In other words: Go home, OKCupid; you’re drunk!
I honestly prefer meeting people IRL. I’ve tried time and time again to make online dating work to no avail. I can find jobs online, not my men.
On that note, however, I do leave for a European vacation in a week…. fingers crossed that i find myself a vacation rendevouz (or two?!)
It’s late, and I don’t really feel like talking about how I doing right now (what with my recent break up and all), so lets turn to my favorite subject: sex.
Huffington Post recently asked women to share things they wished someone had told them about sex, before they started having it. I guess I can’t really add to this, except that I totally agree with 2, 3, 5, 11 (true, but definitely a story for another time), 15 – practice makes perfect 😉 Continue reading